Thursday, 20 November 2014

Tuesday, 13 November 2012

If presented with the opportunity to get a message to a large group of people, what would your message be? is it possible to lie without saying a word?

Children deserve love, to be happy... So, if I have the opportunity to get a message to a large group of people, my message would be to tell people how much it is important and blessing to put a smile on a child's face.

Therefore, I think it is not possible to lie without saying a word. Lies are told by people.   


Of all the forms of courage the ability to laugh is the most...

Using humor and play to overcome challenges and enhance your life.
The ability to laugh, play, and have fun with others not only makes life more enjoyable but also helps you solve problems, connect with others, and be more creative. People who incorporate humor and play into their daily lives find that it renews them and all of their relationships.

Life brings challenges that can either get the best of you or become playthings for your imagination. When you “become the problem” and take yourself too seriously, it can be hard to think outside the box and find new solutions. But when you play with the problem, you can often transform it into an opportunity for creative learning.

Playing with problems seems to come naturally to children. When they are confused or afraid, they make their problems into a game, giving them a sense of control and an opportunity to experiment with new solutions. Interacting with others in playful ways helps you retain this creative ability.

Une poesie.

Un jour, j'ai  rencontre un ange qui m'a fait oublie ma peine. Je pense qu'il  ne faut jamais s'appitoyer sur un mauvais choix ou un coeur brise. Qui aurais su que, aujourd'hui je rencontrerais l'homme de vie.
5 ans apres, nos sentiments sont toujours aussi fort! je rentre au Gabon et je pense que les choses devraient aller mieux.
Il ne faut jamais perdre confiance car la vie nous reserve tous les jours une surprise et un souffle. Une vrai histoire d'amour ne peut juste pas s'arreter. Il y a un quand tout revient pour qu'elle soit propement mise en place.

A beautiful story!

It is a beautiful story!

We met 5 years ago and we were good friends but he never told me his feeling for me. I had the  same feelings! I was attracted to him but I never told him. 5 years today, those feeling never last. Today, we are telling each other how hard those moments were for us. True love never last!!!
We are good friends, we know each other very well and we both think that, things could work properly this time! I think we are in love!!!
True love never last!!!

French recipe! Macaroons!

French food is the most tasted food in the world!
Summer is around and we all are seeking the best way to spend it. I am a loving cooking French food. I am always on the internet looking for  a new recipe and share it with my friends. So, see below  what I will be making on Friday for my friends.

                                                           MACAROONS RECIPE!!!

175g icing sugar
125g ground almonds
3 large free-range egg whites
75g caster sugar
For the filling
150g butter, softened
75g icing sugar

1. Preheat the oven to 160°C/fan140°C/gas 3. Whizz the icing sugar and ground almonds in a food processor to a very fine mixture, then sift into a bowl.
2. In a separate bowl, whisk the egg whites with a pinch of salt to soft peaks, then gradually whisk in the caster sugar until thick and glossy. (At this point you can stir in flavour extract, such as peppermint or lemon, and corresponding colouring such as blue or yellow, to your meringue mixture, depending on what kind of macaroons you want – see chef's tip. Or divide the meringue among different bowls if you want to make more than one colour.)
3. Fold half the almond and icing sugar mixture into the meringue and mix well. Add the remaining half, making sure you use a spatula to cut and fold the mixture until it is shiny and has a thick, ribbon-like consistency as it falls from the spatula. Spoon into a piping bag fitted with a 1cm plain nozzle.

4. Line 2 baking sheets with baking paper. Pipe small rounds of the macaroon mixture, about 3cm across, onto the baking sheets. Give the baking sheets a sharp tap on the work surface to ensure a good ‘foot’. Leave to stand at room temperature for 10-15 minutes to form a slight skin. This is important – you should be able to touch them lightly without any mixture sticking to your finger. Bake for 15 minutes. Remove from the oven and cool.
5. Meanwhile, make the filling/s (unless making chocolate macaroons – see chef's tip). In a bowl, beat the butter until light and fluffy, then beat in the icing sugar. (You can now add flavouring or nuts, and colour – see chef's tip.) Use to sandwich pairs of macaroons together.
Nutritional info
Per macaroon: 160kcals, 9.7g fat (4.2g saturated), 1.8g protein, 17.5g carbs, 16.4g sugar, 0.2g salt

Thursday, 8 November 2012

The statute of limitations has expired on most of our childhood trauma

Childhood Trauma and the Mind-Body Connection for Adults.

Trauma survivors often hear, “Just forget about it. It was in the past. You need to move on.” Unfortunately, this is not accurate for many and until they resolve the past traumatic experiences, they are unable to ‘move on’. When trauma survivors find themselves unable to ‘get past’ the past, then they might consider seeking the help of a licensed therapist. It is not unusual for those with past traumatic experiences to struggle with one or more emotional difficulties, mental disorders, and/or physical health concerns and diagnoses.
Many of those who have survived trauma as children, tend to struggle as adults with depression, PTSD and other anxietydisorders, relationship difficulties, angry outbursts, alcohol (and other drug) abuse, etc. In addition, trauma survivors often experience physiological changes. Sometimes these individuals develop the onset of an illness, while at other times their condition worsens for no apparent reason. These conditions can sometimes be psychosomatic. This is a condition which sometimes causes a person to feel they are being told, “It is all in your head”, “You are making it all up”, or “You are crazy.” But trust me, this is not accurate. These are real condition(s), even though they may have a psychological basis to them and even if the client does fear they may be crazy. (I hear this frequently from my clients who have had traumatic pasts). ‘Psychosomatic’ means only that it’s a physical disorder caused by or greatly impacted by emotional factors; in other words, there’s a mind-body connection. As a word of caution though, never assume that any illness or painful condition has a psychological component or cause; you should always be checked by a medical doctor before making this assumption.
Those survivors of childhood trauma often show some (though not all) of the following physical symptoms: a lack of eye contact, altered pattern of speech (very fast or slow, halting, at times stuttering, or stammering, etc.), an inability or difficulty in being able to cry, chronically tired (or possibly even diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue or Adrenal Fatigue), difficulty with anxiety (including the possibility of shakiness, ‘nervousness’, anxiety or panic attacks), shallow breathing (movement shows up in the chest – not down deep in the stomach region), chronic back pain (for no apparent reason as determined by a physician), hyper vigilance regarding your surroundings and those around you (especially if they have ever been abusive towards you, another person, to an animal, or property of some sort), feeling frozen and unable to move or unable to sit still, having body numbness or feeling as if you are ‘somewhere else’, having poor physical health, fainting or dizziness, dry mouth, or a variety of other symptoms.
Some emotional symptoms may show up as: repeatedly struggling to find someone who will treat you as an equal in an intimate relationship, problems with co-workers, friends, or family members, finding yourself in the same types of stressful and or traumatic/abusive relationships, startling easily (jumping when someone enters the room, speaks to you, or walks nearby), trying hard to get along with everyone; being a ‘good girl’ (or boy) even when you feel otherwise on the inside, struggling to really trust others, making friends easily (yet not letting them know the ‘real’ you for fear that they wouldn’t like you), being fearful (although unsure of why you are fearful or of what you are fearful) feeling like a chameleon (changing to be like others and to fit in with those who are around you), feel a desperate need to control or not be in control of things (feeling the need to take charge all of the time or to always let others take charge), fearing that bad things will happen, dependent upon others, fearful of trying new things out on your own, seeking approval from others before trying new things, feeling as if you have no power, feeling hopeless and helpless about your life and of ever finding happiness, afraid of trying to find someone to love for fear they will hurt you “just like all of the others”, trying hard not to cry for fear that you will be unable to stop, feeling ‘damaged’ (not good enough for anyone), hypersensitive, not living your dreams for fear of failure.
Remember, many of these physical symptoms can be indicative of many physical illnesses. Sometimes physical illnesses can cause one to function poorly on an emotional level as well. But when physician after physician says there is ‘nothing wrong’, don’t give up. Help may be available, especially if you are aware of abuse in your past. A word of caution though, sometimes people don’t remember abuse in their past, yet may have been abused anyway. The reason for this may be either that the child blocked the emotional and physical pain as a way of dealing with it, or they may not have recognized it as abuse and may have assumed that all families lived this way. So when you repeatedly are told that ‘nothing is wrong’ by your doctor, you owe it to yourself to check with a licensed therapist to see if there might be more going on ‘behind the scenes’.