Falling in love with someone is a wonderful, intense experience, but
it can also be more than a little confusing to someone who’s never
really had any romantic ideas in their head before. Love is an easy
thing to define if you’re a girlfriend who
has in your life already, but if you’ve never experienced it before, you
might have a hard time figuring what the heck is wrong with you. Are
you sick? Are you going crazy? Did someone cast a voodoo curse on you?
Well, probably not. The first early symptoms of being in love can mirror illness or mental instability, sure.
But once you learn to really enjoy being in love and get used to the
idea of having a little old-fashioned romance in your life, you’ll start
to appreciate these weird new symptoms you’ve come down with.
So, are you really in love, or just infatuated? People who fall in
love for the first time experience hundreds of unique and individual
emotions, thoughts and feelings, but there are a few classic symptoms
that most lovesick individuals tend to develop.
Top Ten Ways to Know You’re In Love
1. You’re in love if you think about him all of the time.
Well yah, I didn’t say that everything on this list would be profound
or anything. This one is a no-brainer. If you love someone, they’re
going to be in your thoughts all the time. In fact, you won’t be able to
get them out of your head. Look at the rest of the indicators before
coming to a conclusion, though, because this one could also mean that
you’re just plain nuts.
2. You’re in love if everything reminds you of him.
Someone asks you to pass the ketchup and it reminds you of them. A
flock of geese fly overhead and it reminds you of them. You get the
picture. Oh, and for some reason, when you’re in love it seems like
every new person you meet or see on TV or hear a story about has the
same name as the person you’re in love with. I don’t know why that is,
it just happens.
3. You’re in love if you care more about his safety and happiness than you do about your own.
For some weird and inexplicable reason, the whole “looking out for
number one” thing you’ve been doing your whole life desolves away and
gets replaced by an overwhelming urge to make sure that special person
is as safe, comfortable and happy as possible. No, I’m serious. This
totally because your number one priority. It’s kind of like getting
super powers, in a way; you’d be amazed at what little-old-you is
capable of when you’re trying to protect or provide for the one you
love.
4. You’re in love if you start caring more about your own appearance.
Suddenly, without warning, you find yourself wanting to actually iron the wrinkled jeans that have been sitting in the dryer for the last three days before
you wear them. If you’re about to see that person who you can’t get out
of your mind, there suddenly seems to be a whole lot of reflective
surfaces around to check yourself out in.
5. You’re in love if you’re actually interested in knowing more about him.
You can forget about the days when you went home from a date
remembering absolutely nothing about the interests, career and dreams of
the person you went out with. Finding out all about this fantastic
person is your new favorite thing to do. If you could find a book
detailing every minute detail of their life, you wouldn’t sleep or eat
until you read every last paragraph.
6. You’re in love if you want to impress him.
You’ve always tried to be modest, but suddenly you feel like you’re a
politician fighting to win the most important election ever in the
history of the universe. You make sure that the faded newspaper article
about you winning your third-grade spelling bee is left nonchalantly on
the coffeetable when they come to visit. And you keep them as far as
possible from that great aunt who loves to tell all of the embarrassing
stories about you.
7. You’re in love if you aren’t as tight with your money or time anymore.
There was a time when the idea of shelling out your hard-earned money
to buy someone dinner or a gift would have horrified you. Sure, you
would buy an occasional round for your friends or bring grandma flowers
on her birthday, but spending any more money than absolutely necessary
just wasn’t going to happen. But now, no price seems too high as long as
it makes that special someone happy.
8. You’re in love if hanging out with your friends just isn’t as appealing any more.
Remember when you and your friends made fun of the former buddy who
ditched your gang to hang out with their new boyfriend or girlfriend?
And when the thought of abandoning your friends to spend time with a
member of the opposite sex seemed like sacrelige? Well you can try to
deny it all you want, but you’re finding yourself constantly thinking
about being with that special someone . . . even when you’re surrounded
by your buddies!
9. You’re in love if commitment is actually starting to sound like something you could stand.
What, you commit to something that requires you to be
faithful and responsible? Oh, the horror! What strange, evil spell has
been cast upon you that would actually make you excited about a
long-term relationship or even marriage with someone? Did someone slip
something into your drink? Are you going insane? No. You’re probably in
love, knucklehead.
10. You’re in love if you just aren’t noticing other members of the opposite sex.
Oh, the people you used to stare at are still there . . . you just
aren’t noticing them anymore. For some bizarre reason, that special
someone has suddenly become infinitely more attractive to you than any
other person on the face of the planet. People who you used to think
were good-looking suddenly pale in comparison to the one you’ve found
yourself falling in love with.
Being in love for the first time is an amazing experience. It's also the experience that hurts most when it comes to an end - Ask me I know.
ReplyDeleteMy opinion on truly being in love is:
Loving someone the way you love yourself. Many people make the mistake of loving someone else more than they love themselves.
Loving someone is about having the freedom to express happiness and frustration without feeling judged.
Being with someone ans sharing your lives with that particular person is a gift, but only if you allow yourself and your partner to grow as individuals and together. When you start growing apart you know that it is heading towards the end of the experience. Then it means you have learnt enough from that person to move forward and find your true love. Keep in mind that growing apart NATURALLY means not by being stubborn, dishonest and not communicating. That is what I've learnt through my experiences.
The most important lesson I learnt - If you are not totally and completely satisfied with your own flaws an weaknesses you will not be able to truly love someone else.
Hey Michelle, thank you for taking the time to read my post and for your good advices. Wish to get nice tips from you regarding long distance relationship.
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